Mar 17 2010

Here in the Now

This is one of my favorite moments in “A Peaceful Warrior”: A true story of Dan Millman.

As I read through old writings and snapshots of time, I’m transposed back to the moment. But when I think of how they relate to the future, they apply as well. There is so much we say and do that give us hints to the future, but the most important thing is to be “here in the now”; to work on the present.

Here I share some negative-to-positive thoughts:

panic to… calm

get out to… venture into

stuck to… free

fear to… brave

break out to… be you

bad to… excellent

stick to… allow

illusion to… clear vision

shattered to… preserved

crumble to… rebuild

corner to… exposed

holding to… embrace new

worry to… welcome

shuffling to… meaningful, giant step

Rewrite your words and you rewrite your life, future and interior potential of now. You got it, use it. Focus. Use your inner drive to fill an empty cavern waiting to explode.

Just remember, you are on the cusp of something really good. Be present and “take out the trash”.

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Feb 21 2010

Numbing us down


Pain meds
Novocaine
Tylenol
Anti-depressants
Epidurals
Anti-anxiety meds
Sleep meds
Food gluttony
Ritalin
Cold meds
Muscle relaxants
Alcohol
Weed

These are all examples of what we do to avoid the screams of our body’s warning signals.

Shut us up, feed us bad food, make us calm, give us fake sleep, numb us, dull the pain, cut out bad parts, and follow the rules. No need to feel, foster individuality or spiritual growth…just follow the masses. We are human cattle being led to the trough of a passive, unemotional life.

Aren’t we allowed to feel pain? Why do we have to be numbed to live? Why can’t we just listen and change our ways?

One of the reasons our family has chosen to homeschool is to cultivate individuality:

To be their own person.
To be “unlabeled”.
To follow their gut or instincts.
To learn what they’re interested in.
To character build in formative years.
To grow into their personality.
To feel emotions and have a melt down without having an audience.
To be able to form themselves without conforming so much to “the system”.

Now that we have chosen to join the public school system, it just reaffirms we need to feel. Life is not grades, scores, peers and conformity. It’s more about love, self-understanding, freedom to choose, and individuality. Adults or children do not need to be “numbed down”, we need to experience and listen to each other and ourselves.

I understand if there are extreme circumstances where drug influence can come as a “quick fix”; if all other options are exhausted and the fix is short term. We always have personal choices.

And I can somewhat relate to the philosophy “why be in pain when it can be relieved?” But at what cost?

Is it our liver or our minds?
Is it our hormones or our ability to feel?
Is it our nerves or our growth?
Is it drowning our sorrows in a glass or a good cry?
Is it our true personality, or is it a Band-aid so we don’t have to deal with ourselves?

Maybe I’m just crazy, but I wanted to feel the pain of labor. I wanted to be stronger mentally and feel the baby through each contraction. I learned so much about myself, my strength and ability. That allows me to climb mountains, get through tough situations and grow.

If we don’t feel, do we grow?

I don’t. All of us are little kids in big bodies. We still giggle, desire, have temper tantrums, and bicker. But when we’re “grown up”, we have to be responsible, accountable and mature to take on situations without showing emotion. We suck it up, try to ignore the pain, and just do it.

Our bodies have a unique way of getting our attention: First, it’s a tap on the shoulder, then a smack in the face, then a brick in the head. We really need to listen before our bodies start to break down.

Here’s what we need to do more of:

- Feeling
- Going through pain, but finding the positive
- Understanding ourselves
- Learning from life lessons
- Gathering joy in our lives
- Being happy like a child
- Being emotionally present
- Having quiet

Letting go of past sores that we carry…and just plain negativity.


I have choices everyday, and I will try to make them with a whole mind and body. I really need to work hard at it though.


Let’s be true to ourselves as much as we can.

(Drug cocktail photo)

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Jan 10 2010

Fill-in-the-blank

To define a good book: A treasure for the soul. A golden nugget that glistens with every page. A shimmering aspen leaf that catches your eye. A highway to the heart. A spiritual retreat. A deep breath of fresh air.

Do you ever feel like you can clutch a book and never let it go? Tuck it into the back of your pants and hope that it rubs off on you no matter what? Eat with it, sleep with it under your pillow, or put it into a plastic bag and bring it into the shower?

The words written in a book can sing to your soul…when you’re ready. Words spoken and put into a shape can open a wound that needs to be healed. They can paint a picture that moves you to tears.

Words can speak to your heart, as if a hand reaches in and coddles it.

I was handed a book yesterday from a friend. Shshshsh…listen. I’m beginning to trust being lead without a self-agenda. To think of myself as a sponge that absorbs, yet gently squeezes out the excess. The book fills in some of life’s blank spaces. Like in a game of Scrabble, a blank tile resembles freedom, choice and flexibility. I grew up playing tons of Scrabble with my mom and dad, so when I got a blank tile the possibilities were endless. It was a chance to reach into the “word bank” of my brain and pull out a really powerful one. And the blank tile was whatever it was supposed to be…



That blank tile is like life. It’s awaiting to be etched and transformed into one lovely word, or thought, or moment.

As I walk around with my arms wrapped around “the book”, I realize I’m grateful: For the person who gave it to me, for the “aha moment”, and for the densely touching words. But most of all, I’m grateful that is has a profound effect on my life and how I see it.

As my mom says “I’m given everything I need exactly when I need it.

Not when I think I need it, but when it’s time for me to be ready to receive it. Two totally different places and a different reaction.

There are many more “blanks” in life that I need to fill, but I know that I’ll be given the words, tools and insight to allow me create a lifelong string of words…like strands of pearls.

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Jan 7 2010

Bombarded by Besitos

Besitos are “little kisses” in Spanish. The one above is really a big, loving kiss by sweet Norah and I..and one really sweet moment.

But tonight, I was showered with besitos by my two daughters all at once. Every inch of my face (even my scratchy eyebrows) was bathed in giggly kisses. Relishing the moment and completely in love, I sat back with a smile…in awe and wonder of my two girls.

Enjoy your kids or whoever you’re with because the moment escapes way too fast.

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